in my previous post, i wrote about a facebook friend who i understood to have asked me to buy a computer and bring it to her when i visit her for my new year’s resolution. i have had other people make gift requests so the notion was not foreign to me but the magnitude panicked me. a–i don’t even know whether i have the money to travel overseas at all much less to buy a new computer and that’s a substantial purchase. b–i always travel with just a carryon and the addition of a computer would change that. i envisioned losing a computer in some airport and/or dropping said computer and/or having the computer stolen over the course of the seven stops on the journey before i would get to her country. i have not seen the friend in a quarter century and i don’t know her enough to make any assumptions. i asked for clarification. when i didn’t receive a response i DID make assumptions.
i should not have. the friend has emailed me to tell me that what she wanted was for me to purchase the computer, transport it but that she intended to pay me back for the computer. she has indicated there is no reason for me to visit her and she has, with great justification, defriended me. she has every right to an apology and i have tendered this as best i can.